My son, I pray you listen to your father because I want what is best for you and the one you love. Though a mature woman will understand that who you are and what you do requires you to talk, work with, and even socialize with other women, she always wants to know that she is number one in your life. To look at or think of another woman in a romantic way breaks down the honor and trust that your one true love so richly deserves.
It’s not enough to say she is number one because she is always watching and listening to how you respond when another woman wants your attention. Before she found you she too used to play the game. You see inside all women is the desire to know she is lovely, God made them that way and that is good because God also put inside the heart of man the ability to meet that need. One way for her to know that she is lovely is if she can win the heart of a popular boy, and both my boys are very popular among their peers.
You will know this is happening when other women wants to talk to you about things such as dances you did not invite them to or about things you are interested in when she would otherwise have no interest in it apart from you. It all seems innocent enough but she knows if she comes on too strong you will recognize the game and you will be turned off if you are already in a dating relationship. What is difficult is that her flirting speaks to the heart of you because all men want to know something too; that he is important and he has what it takes. Have you ever listened to the song called “Slow fade” by Casting Crowns? I encourage you listen to it again because even though her actions may seem innocent it is where it will lead you that matters and while all this is going on you can be sure the one you gave your word to honor and love is watching and waiting to see what you will do.
It’s going to happen and you will not realize it until after several attempts have been made to win your heart but once you do recognize it you have a very important choice to make. Guys aren’t usually that sensitive and most never recognize what’s coming but you can lose the war by not seeing the battle. Couples are especially susceptible if the relationship between them is already strained in one way or another. This is why there are so many adulterous affairs today the husband and wife disagree, argue, and fight then someone of the opposite sex starts out acting like they care and before you know it they are meeting in secrete but they cannot hide the betrayal in their hearts. If dating is not for the purpose of finding the one you are going to marry then why is it done? Being friends with people of the opposite sex is good, you shouldn’t be shy or awkward but dating is reserved for preparation of marriage and if that is the case your faithfulness in dating is an indicator of how faithful you will be once you are married. Even if you can convince your love this flirting from other girls doesn’t mean anything it is your actions that speaks to the deepest part of her heart. You have one chance to prove you mean what you say, after that the trust between you and your love is broken and it takes a lot more effort to mend that trust than it would have taken in the beginning to simply keep it.
Lastly, I want you to know these dating games that men and women play go on throughout their adult lives. To see if they can win the affection of another doesn’t indicate an evil intent, as long as both are single. Without these games you would not have noticed the one you love but it is the second glance, like the song mentions that ties your hands and if you have already committed your love to another you are headed for danger. I would be no father or even a friend if I didn’t warn you of this age old problem. If this has already happened then this is your chance to turn it around and convince your love, not only with words but in actions too, that she is the only one for you and you will fight for her honor. From this day forward guard your heart for it belongs to her, let other women know you are off limits and you are madly in love with the one God gave you and in doing this the relationship between you and her will be always blessed.
